How to Unlock Your Inner Sex Goddess – according to NZgirl

If you’ve lost your mojo in the bedroom it may be time to channel your inner-sex goddess. Not sure where to start? Or even if you actually have an inner sex goddess? Chances are she does exist and the good news is it’s not as hard as you may think to get in touch with her. We’ve teamed up with Flowmotion to help you unlock your inner sex goddess now.

We know that sex is important but if we’re not feeling particularly sexy it’s hard to get in the mood for loving.

Emotional and Sexual Intimacy Specialist at Sex Therapy New Zealand, Mary Hodson says: “Satisfying sexual experiences are very good for us. They impact our health, longevity and even our ability to resist some diseases. They also impact our self-esteem and general wellbeing.”

So how do we tap into our inner sex goddess?

Firstly we need to feel sexy. It’s virtually impossible to feel sexy if you’re overly worried about how you look. So it’s time to let go of our negative thoughts about our bodies once and for all. Being overly critical of how we look will have a negative effect on our overall feeling of sensuality – not to mention our happiness. So let’s start accepting ourselves. Try and replace your negative thoughts with positive affirmations. If you do this for a solid minute at a time it will help to replace the negative thoughts with positive ones. Whenever you find yourself having these negative thoughts take a minute to turn them around and replace your mind with positivity.

It’s also easy to forget how important touch is in terms of intimacy. Touching is the first step towards sensuality so why not take turns with your partner to explore each other’s bodies. Remember it doesn’t have to be all about sex. Being sensual and spending intimate time together is important too.

Creating a sacred space to enjoy your sexuality is really important too. Your bedroom should be a calm environment, not a cluttered storage space or busy office. Also, make sure you remove anything that reminds you of past relationships and fill the space with touches of pink and red – the colours of love.

If you’re not sure how to turn your bedroom into a love nest then maybe it’s time to learn a few feng shui techniques to help you create a space that is perfect for love-making.

Pleasuring our girly bits is the most erotic way to feed sexual desire but remember most guys need a little direction when it comes to knowing what feels best for you. It does take a little courage but make sure you talk to your partner about specific techniques that you enjoy. Remember that every sex goddess has intimate fantasies and yours deserve to be fulfilled!

If you’ve never experienced the big O (and we’re not talking Oprah) then you may be interested to know that having an orgasm is actually achievable. Mary Hodson say: “It’s possible for every woman to have an orgasm but how would depend on what was going wrong and that could be a multitude of things from the attitudes to sex right through to the techniques used!

“There is no short answer to this but it is something that a sex therapist can help a woman or couple sort out and often relatively easily. There are some good books available and that would be a good place to start.”

The real key to reconnecting with our inner sex goddess is to allow ourselves to surrender to pleasure. Getting in touch with your senses is a great place to start. Taste sweet foods, smell flowers, touch your own skin, listen to sensual sounds, and visualise beautiful scenery to develop your personal sense of pleasure – and make it stronger!


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